Buddha
Edith Schaeffer
One common way to get things done, to achieve and to motivate yourself is to be type of hard on yourself.
To set very high standards for yourself that you simply want to stick to each time.
Now, this fashion of going about things can indeed assist you to accomplish big things in your life and to get things done every week.
But it comes at a price.
Three negative things about taking this position towards yourself are:
You tear your self-esteem down.
As you achieve belongings you tend to tear down your personal self-esteem at the identical time.
So you are feeling less and fewer such as you deserve success. And frustration and being indignant can turn out to be increasingly more common as you fail to reach those very high standards.
You suck the fun and excitement out of things.
A tough or harsh attitude towards yourself has a tendency to make things that used to be fun and exciting less and fewer so.
This attitude does as a substitute over time turn those things into just work that you could start to dread since you fear failure or not meeting your high standards.
You’ll perform worse and worse.
As your self-esteem goes down you’ll feel less motivated to tackle the tasks and projects in your life. As the fun and excitement goes out of most of the belongings you do procrastination tends to turn out to be increasingly more common.
Plus, the work you place in becomes less energetic and focused and so the outcomes aren’t that good anymore either.
I used to take the harder and harsher path. It did help in some ways. But it wasn’t price it.
So what are you able to do when you feel that you simply are perhaps too hard on yourself otherwise you beat yourself up very often?
Here are 4 suggestions that helped me to turn out to be kinder towards myself, to get more of an important things done and to feel higher about myself and my life.
1. Remind yourself of the negative effects of this attitude.
To just remind yourself of how damaging being hard on yourself has been is in my experience a very effective way to replace the old habit with going easier on yourself.
2. Go for more human and smarter standards for yourself.
Movies, books and the people around you could push standards on you which might be just pure fantasy or some type of perfect dream.
But life is life, not a fantasy or dream and to set such extremely high standards that nobody can live up to just leads to what you could see as failure and disappointment in yourself and in your life.
Instead, calm down a bit and accept that every little thing and everybody has flaws and things don’t at all times go as planned.
Accept you can still improve things but they are going to never be perfect.
And realize that you simply won’t be rejected if things otherwise you aren’t perfect. At least not by reasonably well-balanced human beings, like most individuals actually are in reality.
3. Focus on the positive and helpful feedback in setbacks.
It could be very common to be hard on yourself if you make a mistake or fail.
But it’s also a very destructive habit because it might probably magnify one such event into something that makes you are feeling depressed for days or even weeks or makes you quit altogether.
So when you find yourself hard on yourself for a failure or mistake then calm down a bit and go a bit easier on yourself. Remind yourself of why that is a a lot better strategy to keep the motivation and self-esteem up.
And ask yourself:
- What is one thing I can I learn from this case?
- How can I exploit what I learn from this to not make the identical mistake again and to move forward in a smarter way?
4. Celebrate your small steps of forward.
If you’re in the habit of only celebrating if you reach a big milestone or a perfect moment or two then you could lose your motivation and feel like you’re never completely happy or arriving where you would like to be.
So make a habit of celebrating your small day by day and weekly successes too.
This will assist you to keep the soul-tiring monotony away and assist you to stay enthusiastic as a substitute of getting increasingly more unmotivated until you could even consider quitting halfway to that big milestone.
