Timing is something that none of us can appear to get quite right with relationships. We meet the person of our dreams the month before they leave to go study abroad. We form an incredibly close friendship with a sexy one who is already taken. One relationship ends because our partner isn’t able to get serious and one other ends because they’re getting serious too soon.
“It would be perfect,” We moan to our friends, “If only this were five years from now/eight years sooner/some indistinct time in the future where all our problems would take care of themselves.” Timing appears to be the invariable third party in all of our relationships. And yet we never stop to contemplate why we let timing play such a drastic role in our lives.
Timing is a bitch, yes. But it’s only a bitch if we let it’s. Here’s an easy truth that I believe all of us have to resist: the people we meet on the flawed time are literally just the flawed people.
You never meet the best people on the flawed time because the best persons are timeless. The right people make you must throw away the plans you originally had for one and follow them into the hazy, unknown future and not using a glance backwards. The right people don’t make you hmm and haw about whether or not you must be with them; you only know. You know that any adventure you had originally planned out in your future isn’t going to be half as incredible because the adventures you possibly can have by their side. That irrespective of what you thought you wanted before, this is best. Everything is best since they got here along.
When you’re with the best person, time falls away. You don’t worry about fitting them into your complicated schedule, because they turn out to be a component of that schedule. They turn out to be the backbone of it. Your happiness becomes your priority and as long as they’re contributing to it, you possibly can work around the remaining.
The right people don’t stand in the way in which of the belongings you once wanted and make you select them over them. The right people encourage you: To try harder, dream greater, do higher. They bring out essentially the most incredible parts of yourself and make you must fight harder than ever before. The right people don’t impose limits in your time or your dreams or your abilities. They need to tackle those mountains with you, they usually don’t care how much time it takes. With the best person, you’ve gotten all the time on this planet.
The truth is, once we pass someone up since the timing is flawed, what we’re really saying is that we don’t care to spend our time on that person. There won’t ever be a magical time when all the things falls into place and fixes all our broken relationships. But there may someday be a one who makes the difficulty of timing irrelevant.
Because when someone is true for us, we make the time to allow them to into our lives. And that form of timing is at all times right.
